Taking for Granted .....

I must admit one thing in life; it is never easy to find a girl that is compatible. I think, I have met many in the past 25 years but unfortunately all of them were just direction pointers. However, I have no regrets in knowing them because they had actually thought me important lessons in life. Patience, anger management, punctuality and controlling emotions are some of their valuable teaching that I had managed to grasp just by being around them. I guess this is the true beauty of a woman, they don't have to do much to prove they are valuable, as their very presence will make the person that love them feel valuable.

Well, while the single look for their compatible partners, at the other extreme some that have already indulged themselves in relationships are suffering to maintain it. Some had unfortunately fallen out of love after a few years down the road, some are probably having an affair outside their marriage and others is still trying to make their partners realize the importance of this relationship. Hence if you’re not in any of the above categories, consider yourself lucky as you had probably found your true love or the problems haven’t cropped up yet. However, finding your true love is not as important as keeping the relationship lasting forever. It is very difficult to maintain a relationship especially in today's fast moving world, where people jump in and out a relationship like changing their clothes.

I always had a doubt whether the very love which brought people together is actually the cause that drew them further away later. Well, I sincerely feel that people in love tend to take their partners for granted. Since the start of the relationship, they had relied too much on this fantasy word LOVE and expected things around them to fall in place. Remember this; Love becomes just another word from the English dictionary, if it is not followed through by responsible actions. If you are really in love, then you must be responsible to all your actions, in and outside the relationship. Sacrificing, understanding, trust and care are the four main pillars that actual strengthen the word love and must be abide by whoever is in love or claims to be in love. One should only fall in love, if the qualities above are able to be displayed. If not, it’s better not getting into a relationship as you will definitely get hurt or cause pain to the people that had trusted you.

Last but not least, for those who are recovering from a breakup or a divorce, you would realize that either you or your partner had failed to understand the true meaning of love and also failed to practice the qualities that actually strengthen love. If you are still in denial then you would probably disagree here and would either still be adamant in getting your partner back or planning a revenge. Nevertheless, the truth hurts but accepting this pain is part of the responsibility that one must be willing to accept in love. I feel that in order to love, you have to love yourself first to understand love, before you can share your love with someone special. Never ever take you love one for granted, as if they leave you, they leave you forever.

Do you think that people in love take each other for granted??? Fill me with your thoughts .....