I have notice something lately, only time is the true narrator of one’s own life story. Seeing how people change around me like a flick of a finger, made me realize that life goes by us like a flash. One day you are on top of the world ….wanted and needed by everyone … the other, you are flat on your back with nothing except for those sweet memories of the past. This uncertainty only leaves man with one thing …. hope which is normally derived from a past promise.
The problem is we give promises that we can’t keep. These promises are often taken lightly at the time they are uttered … but to our partners, these promises might actually be the foundation that they have built their faith and love on. I have been to so many marriages where the couples promised upon god, the holy fire and themselves to remain loyal to their partners. However, six months down the road they split up, calling the help of a legal word termed divorce.
Why marriages or relationships previously lasted longer is the question everyone should asked themselves. Well the answer certainly lies in the changes that the society had undergone. Factually, men have always been known for their ego, macho, and anger. Some also are known to be sweet talkers and flirts. These behavioral characteristics had never left man till this present day. However, the people that had actually changed are the women. They used to be gentle, polite, cultured, mannered, respectful and sincere in every of their acts. However, these behaviors are rarely seen in women today. Sadly to say that ever since women started changing man like they were changing their clothes, even love has lost its permanency.
Well I know many of you ladies reading this probably is already thinking I am a male chauvinist pig. Well the truth hurts that is why it is rarely spoken these days. Face it; god didn’t create man and women equally. He created you women better than men. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t have trusted creation to be on the hands of women. He wouldn’t have termed the earth as being a women and he wouldn’t have termed every great thing existing today from the rivers to the mountains to be a women. Well the truth is behind every happy family is a mother that loves, behind every happy husband is a wife that loves, behind every successful man is a woman and behind every man’s tear is also a woman. A woman can choose to break, make or remain a relationship and the order of the society; hence it is important for her to be certain of her decisions.
Besides that, I also notice that when a man prays he always prays for himself but when a woman prays she prays first for her family and only then for herself. Hence, it is assured that if the woman of the house is proper, the man will never stray. Unfortunately, the destruction of the society started when women chased equality with man and degraded themselves. Today, they are slowly losing the extra ability and value that god had given them. Nevertheless, it is not too late to save the society as women can always recover from this delusion that hit them by realizing this one truth.
Remember this always, never rush into a relationship and never carry on a relationship that is not worth it into marriage. This is because this decision can jeopardize not only your future but later your children’s future too. Marriage is a permanent knot that should only be tied once in life; Marry the person that had been sincere to you at all times and not the guy that thought he loved you before. There are a very few good man out there that will give everything up for a woman and if you find him to be part of your life now never apart from him.
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This post is really good one & what Ahil wrote is 100% truth...Hope the year 2009 will be great year for everyone and my humble request to all "never rush into a relationship and never carry on a relationship that is not worth it into marriage" cause no point if we regret later! Wish you all a Great year ahead - Keep up your good work Ahil. ~God bless you~
Very interesting topic here Ahil, but i don’t quite agree fully in your writing especially when you use the word ’ factually’
‘Factually, men have always been known for their ego, macho, and anger. Some also are known to be sweet talkers and flirts. These behavioral characteristics had never left man till this present day. However, the people that had actually changed are the women.’
I wouldn’t not like to write much just would like to give you some example...Mahatma Gandi was he not a man? Look at those who established/ founded a religion let it be Christianity, Buddhism or any new theory on life and understanding (K'ung-fu-tzu (confusius_ etc) were they women? Is their teachings were on the basis of ego, anger, macho?? Or was it on humble, patience, love and care?
What i would like to point out is, men and woman do differ when you compare in terms of masculinity, physical strength. Do men not bleed when injured? Do men don’t cry when they are hurt? ( its just that woman do in openly and men tend to keep within themself). The feeling that a man has.. the expectations, the hopes and desires also exists in a woman. Why don’t men learn to respect, appreciate and value woman????
Get your facts right...
You also abruptly commented on women on how they used to be gentle, polite, cultured, mannered, respectful... What do you actually mean here? To my way of thinking, woman learn how to adopt and change to the environment. They are stern in the environment they need to be strict and lovable, soft and caring according to the place and situation. Nowadays women are more awaken, after long being manipulated and misused by SOME men. The motherly character as portrait by Mother Theresa is a woman...
and powerful character Bella Abzug Queen Elizabeth, princess Di, Jayalalitha
famous chemist Marie Curie is also women.
My point is..woman adopt them self well to the current environment.
If man cant create a safe, sound and protected environment for woman...then woman learnt to create their own ‘ comfort zone’
Do you realise how difficult life is being a woman, worried of walking alone scared of being kidnapped/ raped. Hv to show the ‘ fearsome part’ to protect themselves from sexual harassment etc. It is MAN who made WOMAN to change as MAN are unable to cater to womans need...
Woman switched to SELF SERVICE.
Woman changing man like cloths????
Ahil, when you want to applaud, you need both hands to clap and make the sound... blaming one side is totally unfair. Its easy to point your fingers at others....but remember when you point the finger to others rest of the fingers are pointing back at you....
There are 3 things that man likes to change but cant no matter how hard you try, first is past, second is Time and thirdly Others. But there is one thing that man change but they opt to not....that is to change their self...
Since then till now woman are the same....its just the exposure and the era, the ‘quantity’ varies.
Truth hurts...
But your last paragraph...is simply SUPERB!!!!!
Bravo....thats a true inspiration and something that made me think.
have a pleasant day...HAppy New Year ahead..
Well its nice of you to write out your feelings but sometimes in life we have to look at the changes that destruct rather then just all changes.
Well i said men were known for the above bad qualities, because i wanted to make comparison with how much women had changed as compared to man in a bad way.Of course there are a lot of man that dont do those things and still get disagreements :P .
Well as for being unfair, in a company when there is a senior staff and some juniors under him.The reason the senior staff is respected and paid more is because of the responsibility that he or she has to carry. Well when something is messed up by the junior staff is it wrong to blame the senior staff? Well everything could be avoided if the senior staff lead by example and kept the order as he was responsible. Women are responsible for their kids and husbands which make the society.They were given the extra ability by the lord to deal with the changes that the society will undertake.
With great power comes great responsibility .. my friend... well sincere you talked abt a little Christianity, do you know that man and woman were seen alike until the first woman fueled the first man to eat the apple. The reason the society and differences happened was because of a women action. You could always say where did the first man's brains were when he consumed the apple but even in drug trafficking the person that consumes is seen less guilty than the person that distributes.
As for women being the same, please think this statement again. You know that the change of women had caused the damage in the society more than the change in man. Do you know how disgusted i feel seeing a women smoke or sleep around... this same women will be carrying the next generation.
It is a shame u did not see that i was asking women not to change as they are superior than man. If one lose a father, they lose the sense of security and income in their life but if one loses a mother they lose the their believe, love , faith , and everything that is meaningful. I have felt this when my mother passed away 2 years ago.
Anyway thanks for your comment really appreciate it.
god bless u
Hello Y'all,
No point arguing who has changed for the worse. Both men and women have changed in their own ways due to modernity. In general, men and women must learn to respect one another as individuals and when they do get married, it's because they are willing to accept each other's flaws. Because they have decided to grow and learnt together.
When divorced is inevitable, both parties must be held responsible and both must be mature and responsible for the sake of the children.
No one party is responsible alone!
I think this post is really disappointing... there were too many sweeping statements. too many generalisations. too many assumptions which weren't backed up with any concrete evidence.
sorry, but i'll share my exact thoughts with you when I'm free and I see u online... talk to u then, ciaoz.
Well R*T the funny part is when i write something good about women, the women never did ask for proof for the statement. But as soon as i pen down a wake call post for the women they all react as if it is the end of the world. To me it is simple, not all women is stated to be as above ... only those who reacted to this feel that there is some truth in what i am saying ....
god bless u
no hard feelings
ahilan
I think each situation is unique. A general answer or one theory does not necessarily apply to many seperations. Although, as a woman, I can't help but to feel good that you think that God had created woman better than men :)
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