Marriage has become a prime concern among most women and men in their 30's.At this stage of life, some of them suffer the burden of their parents which forces them into an arrange marriage, some also force themselves into love or an unfitting relationship, but most continue living single by the principal "that age is just a number".
Well the above is just some categories that people in that stage of life fit into. However the concern here is rather the purpose of marriage. Why do people even bother getting married when they can live together without that extra bond. Well .....the main factor that governs marriage is the society itself. Living in a society, the society's thoughts counts a lot, and should be taken into serious consideration. The reason people tie the knot is so that in the eyes of the public their relationship is legal. Besides that, the real purpose of the marriage knot is also to protect the integrity of a women and further ensure that the men sticks by her till the end. However, lets face it.... today both the main purposes of marriage is defeated due to the introduction of the legal divorce.Hence do you think one should still get married if he or she is uncertain of their future as a couple ?
In my opinion, unlike love, i feel that marriage should be a one time relationship. One should only marry a person that she or he truly loves and is willing to spend the entire life with that person. Please note that i am not referring to special cases where the spouse had pass away and etc. Well, if your a parent, and your reading this, never force your child into a marriage. I can understand the fact that your worried about their future, but sometimes this worry is rather a curse in disguise. Its better not marrying then marrying the wrong guy or girl and suffering later. Please think of your child's future more then your pride at this point of life as it will help to ensure the peace in the family for many years to come.
Like great people say, marriage is made in heaven, something good takes time to happen, if your willing to wait for it, you 'll be beneficial. For those who are forcing themselves into love or a relationship stop doing that too. You can put make up on your face to look good but you certainly can't put make up for your heart to feel good. Hence why cheat your self and the other person who is having hope on you. A simple principal of life , never cheat yourself at any point of life as you are only fooling yourself. It is true, age is a number. However, this number carries a deep meaning, which is the maturity, knowledge and experience gathered in life. We don't want to be single forever hence stop hiding behind cool phrases and start using the knowledge that was gathered, to build a happy family.
We fear to fail in this beautiful relationship called marriage, forgetting that we also have a role to play to ensure success in it. Let me know whether you think marriage is important or not ??
In my opinion, unlike love, i feel that marriage should be a one time relationship. One should only marry a person that she or he truly loves and is willing to spend the entire life with that person. Please note that i am not referring to special cases where the spouse had pass away and etc. Well, if your a parent, and your reading this, never force your child into a marriage. I can understand the fact that your worried about their future, but sometimes this worry is rather a curse in disguise. Its better not marrying then marrying the wrong guy or girl and suffering later. Please think of your child's future more then your pride at this point of life as it will help to ensure the peace in the family for many years to come.
Like great people say, marriage is made in heaven, something good takes time to happen, if your willing to wait for it, you 'll be beneficial. For those who are forcing themselves into love or a relationship stop doing that too. You can put make up on your face to look good but you certainly can't put make up for your heart to feel good. Hence why cheat your self and the other person who is having hope on you. A simple principal of life , never cheat yourself at any point of life as you are only fooling yourself. It is true, age is a number. However, this number carries a deep meaning, which is the maturity, knowledge and experience gathered in life. We don't want to be single forever hence stop hiding behind cool phrases and start using the knowledge that was gathered, to build a happy family.
We fear to fail in this beautiful relationship called marriage, forgetting that we also have a role to play to ensure success in it. Let me know whether you think marriage is important or not ??
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Of course it's important...
but yea if you're not sure you can be with that person for all your time. Don't even bother, don't be an idiot and spoil the other persons life.
About parents forcing thier child, of course they wanna see thier kids get married. If their kids don't, they feel they have not successfully raised a whole human being. But, don't force your kids into it, let them accept it themself or else there is no point
We come across many pit stops for advancement in the journey called life..and Marriage is definately an important pit stop in this unpredictable journey..but then, there is no rush to get there..coz i strongly beleive that that "its 100 times better to walk straight than to run crooked".. =) ... rite ?..hehehe
Whats the point getting into a relationship / marraige when ur not even sure if ur ready to hold another persons hand to walk by urside and share ur life journey with him/her..frm my observation, most marriage that ends up with divorce is due to this "rush"...
when talking bout parents forcing their childrens into marriage.. we need to understand something here,no matter how old we are..in teens or in thirties,it doesnt matter to our parents..becoz we will always remain as a little child to them. Therefore at times, they dont realise that we are grown ups and its time for us to decide whats best for us..thats the major cause for heartaches in most families.. Yet, as a child we can always talk to our parents and explain to them our views and make them understand our stand..im sure our parents loves us very much and for sure they will understand us..after all,our happiness is their happiness =)
At times, its diff to change the mind set of our parents and the society, therefore i would like to kindly request..We who are part of the society, who are going to be future parents..should give full freedom to an individual or our childrens to choose when he/she wish to reach this destination called marriage.. As what gandhi ji said " We must be the change we wish to see in the world"
Indeed,You are the captain of your own ship and u noe very well that no one else can make a better captain than u are..
i would to like recall a verse frm ur previous post and add sumthing to it..
you said that..
" Its hard to build the fortress of love as it requires 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 souls, a mind and a heart".. very true..
yet if you are ready to pick up the stones thrown at you,throughout this journey called life, and build this fortress of love with a joined trust and great devotion..i can ensure you that this fortress of love would definately be strong enough to protect the "fragile castle" called "marraige"
God bless..
=)
i dont think marriage is an absolute must thing, i believe it is a choice. i mean, rewind back time to the stone age and strip away what we have now, i.e. relationships, jobs, malls, credit cards, all the modern amenities that we have grown so attached with, and you have only one purpose: procreate. but that was back in the day when we didnt care abt integrities or commitments or fidelity....things are that much harder these days, coz everyone has a different set of priorities and desires...how are you gonna fulfill all those expectations is a journey on its own...
and i think the scariest part of taking the leap is knowing you are truly marrying the right one...and that it takes 2 to tango. a lot of ppl take it too easy these days...you hear horror stories like divorce after just 3 mths, and miraculous tales of some ppl who live together unmarried for 25 yrs...so what is that bind them together or act as a clasing factor for some? it is all subjective at the end of the day....
and we need loads of luck too i think!! =)
correction...
*and i think the scariest part of taking the leap is not knowing you are truly marrying the right one
*clashing
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