Love is a word given to the energy that binds two souls. It can happen to anyone at anytime. Today, you might feel that love is never to struck you , four months down the road you suddenly claim that you are in love. Since , i have talked a lot about this crazy feeling that all beings will feel at some point in life, it would be interesting to narrow down to a situation that commonly happens when two people are in love.
I feel that love sometimes happens too fast not allowing the mind to foresee certain complication that can arise from a relationship.I guess thats the reason people say love is blind . However, i know for the fact that many people have rushed into love and is now trap in a very complicated feeling which consist a mixture of guilt, unhappiness and sincerity. This complicated feeling is so common and its termed as falling out of love. Many couples having fallen in love for a year or even more sometimes feel that there is a level of intolerable unhappiness coming from the relationship. This feeling is felt when the other half of the couple often fails to understand his or her partner. Now the ultimate question is "What will you do if you know after trying so hard that your love relationship would not work out and unhappiness is growing from having to maintain the relationship ? "
Well, the truth is you only have two choices.The first choice is you sacrifice your happiness and continue holding on to the relationship .... or ... the second choice, you tell your partner the truth and leave the relationship being truthful.If you choose to sacrifice your happiness, to me your not only cheating your partner but more importantly your cheating yourself. It is not fair to make someone believe you are in love with them, when the truth is you are no longer happy being with them. You are just giving the person false hope which causes the person to suffer more if ever you decide to leave later.However, if you decide to leave the relationship now, of course you will make your partner heart broken but this feeling can be recovered from as it depends on the length of the relationship.If you choose to go with the second choice, make sure you make it very clear to your partner the reason of the break up and just don't ignore or leave without an explanation as this will kindle hatred. I would suggest for one to be in a calm state of mind when making this type of decisions, as we don't want the decision to be based on emotions.
Frankly speaking, no one is perfect. Just imagine, if you can't achieve perfection being in one body, the task of achieving perfection with two bodies is even more impossible. You would need to fully understand the other person, their needs and also their character. This process would take a few years for some but to others it might even take a whole life span.The important thing here is to use love as a tool to understand your partner and to solve all misunderstandings. People say the rule of thumb of all relationships is to abide to the give and take policy, as it helps one to show love and receive love accordingly.
Nevertheless, we can't ignore the fact that sometimes we are destine to meet the partner that we think that we are in love with, for a different purpose which is not suppose to be love.In this case, even if we stand upside down the relationship wouldn't work. However, one shouldn't assume that the relationship would not work prior to giving the best to make it work. Learn from these difficult situations in life, as it will help you to strengthen yourself and make you a better person.Always remember this, don't go into a relationship seeking happiness from it, go into a relationship because you have so much of happiness to share. In that way the relationship will last long as the expectation to receive happiness is less.
God have never ask man to love, it is man who wanted to love, as he is always in search of unity.
Please give some suggestion on what a person should do if the person is in the above situation in a relationship ... i would love to hear how you would solve the problem. Thanks
I feel that love sometimes happens too fast not allowing the mind to foresee certain complication that can arise from a relationship.I guess thats the reason people say love is blind . However, i know for the fact that many people have rushed into love and is now trap in a very complicated feeling which consist a mixture of guilt, unhappiness and sincerity. This complicated feeling is so common and its termed as falling out of love. Many couples having fallen in love for a year or even more sometimes feel that there is a level of intolerable unhappiness coming from the relationship. This feeling is felt when the other half of the couple often fails to understand his or her partner. Now the ultimate question is "What will you do if you know after trying so hard that your love relationship would not work out and unhappiness is growing from having to maintain the relationship ? "
Well, the truth is you only have two choices.The first choice is you sacrifice your happiness and continue holding on to the relationship .... or ... the second choice, you tell your partner the truth and leave the relationship being truthful.If you choose to sacrifice your happiness, to me your not only cheating your partner but more importantly your cheating yourself. It is not fair to make someone believe you are in love with them, when the truth is you are no longer happy being with them. You are just giving the person false hope which causes the person to suffer more if ever you decide to leave later.However, if you decide to leave the relationship now, of course you will make your partner heart broken but this feeling can be recovered from as it depends on the length of the relationship.If you choose to go with the second choice, make sure you make it very clear to your partner the reason of the break up and just don't ignore or leave without an explanation as this will kindle hatred. I would suggest for one to be in a calm state of mind when making this type of decisions, as we don't want the decision to be based on emotions.
Frankly speaking, no one is perfect. Just imagine, if you can't achieve perfection being in one body, the task of achieving perfection with two bodies is even more impossible. You would need to fully understand the other person, their needs and also their character. This process would take a few years for some but to others it might even take a whole life span.The important thing here is to use love as a tool to understand your partner and to solve all misunderstandings. People say the rule of thumb of all relationships is to abide to the give and take policy, as it helps one to show love and receive love accordingly.
Nevertheless, we can't ignore the fact that sometimes we are destine to meet the partner that we think that we are in love with, for a different purpose which is not suppose to be love.In this case, even if we stand upside down the relationship wouldn't work. However, one shouldn't assume that the relationship would not work prior to giving the best to make it work. Learn from these difficult situations in life, as it will help you to strengthen yourself and make you a better person.Always remember this, don't go into a relationship seeking happiness from it, go into a relationship because you have so much of happiness to share. In that way the relationship will last long as the expectation to receive happiness is less.
God have never ask man to love, it is man who wanted to love, as he is always in search of unity.
Please give some suggestion on what a person should do if the person is in the above situation in a relationship ... i would love to hear how you would solve the problem. Thanks
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