You know something......
It is strange that we keep searching for happiness in life when happiness has always been with us.It is just very unfortunate that some never realise this truth until they lose the person that had actually cared for them.
I met her via an on-line social network about a fortnight ago. Since then we became friends and kept in touch via mail. I soon noticed from her mails that her character and believes are similar to mine. I started feeling really comfortable around her as though we had known each other for years. I told myself that i had finally found a person that truly understands me as a friend.
My friendly nature didnt allow me to further leave our friendship "cyberly". Hence i dared myself to reveal my phone number in a mail hoping she would do the same. I was shock, when i received the next mail with her number in it. I then knew that this friendship was meant to be and was really happy that i had found her as my friend.Since i had her number, i preferred calling her because from mails we cant tell much of a person's true character. However i didn't call her to judge her but i wanted to know her better. Ever since having her number, it really felt as if i was on cloud 9 each time i spoke to her. Hearing her voice were like nectar to the bees. Honestly, I never felt such happiness for days.
Well the famous saying that all good things have to come to an end some day , had soon to haunt our friendship.Having talked to her for only five days, all of a sudden today she tells me that i think we should go back to communicating via mails. She did not give me a reason to her sudden decision. At that time,i felt hurt and didn't not know how to react to her.My mind started assuming possible reasons that might have lead to the sudden decision. Maybe, its because i called her too early today. However, i only did so because i wanted to wake her up so she wouldn't be late for work as she was yesterday. I tried calming myself down but my mind kept feeling as if I had committed a sin for just being sincere to my friendship. Well since I didn't know my mistake and didn't want to hurt her further i apologized to her in a sms, afraid that maybe she didnt want to hear me any more.
The reason i brought up this story here is to make realise that unknowingly we might be hurting someone that really cares for us. The person might be your friend, your parents, your colleague, your love one or a complete stranger. I also know for the fact that we can not satisfy everyone.However, atleast we owe these people a reason if ever a decision we make is against them. The reason provided also must be reasonable and not just self judged.Dont forget we had given them hope and this hope had tracended to their happiness all this time. Hence, its our duty to explain our decision to ensure they are aware rather then just crushing this hope by remaining silent. As for my story, i dont blame her for her action as maybe she is not used to such a friendship. All that i can say is in life it is very hard to find a person that truly cares, and if that person is with you now, dont take her or he for granted.
Remember this, it will take a life time to truly understand someone but it will only take a second to break apart, the choice to be together or apart is in your hands. Make this wise decision with your heart as you only need a heart to care.
It is strange that we keep searching for happiness in life when happiness has always been with us.It is just very unfortunate that some never realise this truth until they lose the person that had actually cared for them.
I met her via an on-line social network about a fortnight ago. Since then we became friends and kept in touch via mail. I soon noticed from her mails that her character and believes are similar to mine. I started feeling really comfortable around her as though we had known each other for years. I told myself that i had finally found a person that truly understands me as a friend.
My friendly nature didnt allow me to further leave our friendship "cyberly". Hence i dared myself to reveal my phone number in a mail hoping she would do the same. I was shock, when i received the next mail with her number in it. I then knew that this friendship was meant to be and was really happy that i had found her as my friend.Since i had her number, i preferred calling her because from mails we cant tell much of a person's true character. However i didn't call her to judge her but i wanted to know her better. Ever since having her number, it really felt as if i was on cloud 9 each time i spoke to her. Hearing her voice were like nectar to the bees. Honestly, I never felt such happiness for days.
Well the famous saying that all good things have to come to an end some day , had soon to haunt our friendship.Having talked to her for only five days, all of a sudden today she tells me that i think we should go back to communicating via mails. She did not give me a reason to her sudden decision. At that time,i felt hurt and didn't not know how to react to her.My mind started assuming possible reasons that might have lead to the sudden decision. Maybe, its because i called her too early today. However, i only did so because i wanted to wake her up so she wouldn't be late for work as she was yesterday. I tried calming myself down but my mind kept feeling as if I had committed a sin for just being sincere to my friendship. Well since I didn't know my mistake and didn't want to hurt her further i apologized to her in a sms, afraid that maybe she didnt want to hear me any more.
The reason i brought up this story here is to make realise that unknowingly we might be hurting someone that really cares for us. The person might be your friend, your parents, your colleague, your love one or a complete stranger. I also know for the fact that we can not satisfy everyone.However, atleast we owe these people a reason if ever a decision we make is against them. The reason provided also must be reasonable and not just self judged.Dont forget we had given them hope and this hope had tracended to their happiness all this time. Hence, its our duty to explain our decision to ensure they are aware rather then just crushing this hope by remaining silent. As for my story, i dont blame her for her action as maybe she is not used to such a friendship. All that i can say is in life it is very hard to find a person that truly cares, and if that person is with you now, dont take her or he for granted.
Remember this, it will take a life time to truly understand someone but it will only take a second to break apart, the choice to be together or apart is in your hands. Make this wise decision with your heart as you only need a heart to care.
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i also have online frens and of course i do care for some but there are a lot of them i don care about. and yea i get some bad feedbacks at time. but life isnt only about being online. there are soo much to do apart from chatting that online frens wouldnt understand. i dono, but for me i think true frens wud always be there no matter u keep in touch with them or not. but if one day u need them m sure they wud give u a hand.
Agi.. who is she la.....
hahahaha
Hi ahilan..Your post reminds me of a story i read way back in time.. so, just thought of sharing it with u..
Once man whispered, "God, speak to me"
and a meadowlark sang.
But, the man did not hear.
So the man yelled, "God, speak to me"
and the thunder rolled across the sky.
But, the man did not listen.
The man looked around and said, "God, let me see you"
and a star shone brightly.
But, the man did not notice.
The man shouted, "God, show me a miracle!"
And a life was born.
But, the man did not see.
So, the man cried out in dispair, "Touch me God,
and let me know you are here!"
Whereupon, God reached down and touched the man....
But, the man brushed the butterfly away and walked on... =)
Just wanted to say that, Let us not miss out on a blessing because it isn't packaged the way that you expect..
-God bless-
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