You know something .....
Its really funny that where ever i go, people often ask me my age.Its definitely not because i look younger then my actual age, however it really feels as though people are age conscious. Well to me, i feel that age is just a number. As for physical appearance, I know it is important to look good but it shouldn't be the most important factor to judge one on. I am sure that, you all are aware that the face that you once cared so much for, with costly facial products will start to wrinkle as age catches up. I sincerely feel that it is more important to feel good rather then just to look good.
What about love ?? Does age has it say in a relationship ?? Well, the tradition that many people had followed by is a women always marries a man older to her and a man always marries a women younger to him. I know that some of you would disagree with me as this is not always the case in marriages these days, however before we go there ever wonder why people actually try to keep this tradition when deciding a marriage partner ??... Well, the only logical reason that i can comprehend is that a women ages faster then a man and this is scientifically proven. Besides that, in a relationship, i feel that the maturity level of the both sex is important. Since a women matures faster then a man, it is always advice for a women to marry an older man so that he would be mature enough to handle his responsibilities and duties in a marriage.
Now comes the crazy part .....today, i am sure you will agree that , the long practiced marriage tradition above has been rubbished by a four letter word called love. However, i still feel that love is beautiful because love can happen to anyone at anytime. Today,the reason we can see older women falling in love with younger men and younger men falling in love with older women is because of this wonder called love. This beautiful feeling also has the ability of bending the norms of human behavior and filling the voids in a relationship.Well, if true love is the nature of the relationship, the relationship would definitely last.
The problem is that people often assume that what they feel in a relationship is always true love. This typical scenario normally happens if the couple is too young. During the early adolescence period, the hormonal changes causes infatuation feelings to rise which is so often mistaken as love.This so called love feeling, normally does not last very long causing the couple to often misunderstandings which at the end leads to a breakup. Well a great man said this, love is accidental but true love is built upon. A couple can start a relationship just on love but if they want it to last they have to seek true love.
As for me, i feel that in a relationship the age gap of the couple should not be very far apart as it will tend to make one act as a parental role rather then his or her actual role. Besides that, the girl being older or younger to me is not a problem for me because all i know is that if she truly loves me and i truly love her, i will be willing to grow old with her.
Its really funny that where ever i go, people often ask me my age.Its definitely not because i look younger then my actual age, however it really feels as though people are age conscious. Well to me, i feel that age is just a number. As for physical appearance, I know it is important to look good but it shouldn't be the most important factor to judge one on. I am sure that, you all are aware that the face that you once cared so much for, with costly facial products will start to wrinkle as age catches up. I sincerely feel that it is more important to feel good rather then just to look good.
What about love ?? Does age has it say in a relationship ?? Well, the tradition that many people had followed by is a women always marries a man older to her and a man always marries a women younger to him. I know that some of you would disagree with me as this is not always the case in marriages these days, however before we go there ever wonder why people actually try to keep this tradition when deciding a marriage partner ??... Well, the only logical reason that i can comprehend is that a women ages faster then a man and this is scientifically proven. Besides that, in a relationship, i feel that the maturity level of the both sex is important. Since a women matures faster then a man, it is always advice for a women to marry an older man so that he would be mature enough to handle his responsibilities and duties in a marriage.
Now comes the crazy part .....today, i am sure you will agree that , the long practiced marriage tradition above has been rubbished by a four letter word called love. However, i still feel that love is beautiful because love can happen to anyone at anytime. Today,the reason we can see older women falling in love with younger men and younger men falling in love with older women is because of this wonder called love. This beautiful feeling also has the ability of bending the norms of human behavior and filling the voids in a relationship.Well, if true love is the nature of the relationship, the relationship would definitely last.
The problem is that people often assume that what they feel in a relationship is always true love. This typical scenario normally happens if the couple is too young. During the early adolescence period, the hormonal changes causes infatuation feelings to rise which is so often mistaken as love.This so called love feeling, normally does not last very long causing the couple to often misunderstandings which at the end leads to a breakup. Well a great man said this, love is accidental but true love is built upon. A couple can start a relationship just on love but if they want it to last they have to seek true love.
As for me, i feel that in a relationship the age gap of the couple should not be very far apart as it will tend to make one act as a parental role rather then his or her actual role. Besides that, the girl being older or younger to me is not a problem for me because all i know is that if she truly loves me and i truly love her, i will be willing to grow old with her.
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Age doesn't matter. When it comes to live and marriage, I got the best example to share. Muhammad s.a.w. married his 1st wife Khadijah Khuwailid when he was 25 and Khadijah was 40 and they 6 children from the marriage. (Imagine - all survive without advance medical technology). They support each other full heartedly and unconditionally. Muhammad S.A.W. took no other wife until after Khadijah's death because of his love for her. It's the greatest love of all legend - till death do them apart.
nabi 1st wife was way elder and his last wife was way younger...
dose it matter?
hahaha
Hi Satya. It doesn't matter if it doesn't matter to you, isn't it? That is what Ahilan trying to tell, right?
My grandmother was married to my grandfather when she was 12. When she was alive, she used to tell me that she would play house with her friends under her husband's house. It doesn't matter to the neighbourhood. I, for sure, am glad coz if it's not because of the string attached my mom and me won't be here today.
Siti Aishah (the prophet 2nd wife) difinitely didn't mind. It was told that being Arabs, even at the age of 10, Aishah had a tall and big posture. Some girls actually reached puberty even at the early age of 9. The closest example is my niece. Below are some facts for you or anyone else to learn. Bare in mind that this is history - and I strongly advise for ppl to at least read the history before giving a comment.
"Aishah became the Prophet's wife in Makkah when she was most likely in the tenth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about fourteen or fifteen years old. Before and after her wedding she maintained a natural jollity and innocence and did not seem at all overawed by the thought of being wedded to him who was the Messenger of God whom all his companions, including her own mother and father, treated with such love and reverence as they gave to no one else."
All i can see is that Nabi is more like a womenizer. That story is so fake. Aishah was so young! What on earth made you think he wana save all the jande janda. Its crap. Age certainly doesnt matter for him cos he is enjoying it!
BTW,age really doesnt matter. As long as the love is there. You are indeed a GREAT blogger. Love all your post! i am so gona recommend your blog to my friends !
FUCK nabi !
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