The other side of love

You know something... Its never easy to find the right girl in life, fall in love and make the relationship last throughout marriage. If you are with the girl you first love, married her and your still with her today, consider yourself very fortunate, as i am about to tell you a feeling that many of us out there had felt due to our sincerity to love.

Love is a beautiful feeling which arises slowly without one's knowledge. This feeling is compared to butterflies in the tummy as it keeps making one feel as if they are in heaven. It is said that over 80% of love starts of with infatuation which grows stronger in time to become that true love. Love is a feeling understood only by the soul hence explains why anyone cant fall in love with anyone else.

As they say, nothing beautiful remains beautiful forever, this goes to love too. I still remember the day she told me it was over. I was to follow her by train to the main station. While waiting for the train she had threw the gift that i bought her on the track and uttered to me that "I cant do this anymore, I want a break up". Soon later the train came. In the train i apologized and begged her to stay" ..... From being the person she loved the most, i soon became her nightmare.....

Well i know many people out there has gone through the similar pain. Its hard to build the fortress of love as it requires 4 arms, 4 legs, 2 souls, a mind and a heart. When trust and sincerity fails the relationship the love is lost at that instant.As love slowly falls, It feels like the blue sky hard turned grey, the heart becomes heavier each day, the mind has lost its thoughts and the body has lost its senses. At this point loneliness, becomes the only friend of the victim. Seeing her leave with another ........... Its simply a feeling that cant be described by words.

Is this the end of the road ? Is this the end of life ? ........ Well at this point it may seem that way. A great man once said, one must love himself first before loving another. At this point of life, only the love that you have for yourself can safe you and will safe you. It will be hard, but just think it this way, before meeting the person you loved the most, you were alone. How did you survive then ?? Slowly divert the mind to something productive. Take one step at a time. Hate him or her if you have to initially.... but don't react or show anger or even go back to him or her for a while. At this point of time, seek motherly love from parents or caretakers or from god, as a love of a mother can heal all wounds as its never conditional.

Waking up from the breakup spell, seems like the sun had finally risen.Having gone through the pain for several months, dont find a replacement for that love immediately.Give it a year or two so that the feeling completely subsides. Now the question is should you be friends with the person you once loved ?? Well i and my X are still friends.... in fact i still care for her a lot and i cant punish my love because she was not sincere enough. So if you have a strong heart, then slowly try to make friends but nothing serious.

Before you tell the person you love him or her, ask yourself sincerely if you really love the person and is willing to spend your entire life with that person. Please don't commit if your uncertain of your love, as it only will destroy him, his faith and another heart that seeks love.

Never exchange pity for love and never give your life up for love

If you have experienced a breakup and have advise for the readers be free to comment !!!